Growing Up

I have never really known who I am?

Have you ever felt like that? I knew what I liked, I've experienced travel, relationships, and many other things, but all I wanted to do was fit in.
I hid behind others, too scared to say what I liked out loud just in case no one agreed with me (that's the people please in me). 
I never really stood up for myself, someone would ask me to do something big or small and I would agree, even if it was something I don't want to do. I was too scared of being Judged, or being left out or letting someone down (Silly Right?).

Your past can have both positive and negative influences on your present and future, sometimes we need a little nudge to remember the positive and that's where I can come in. I can help you remember the good and bring that energy into the now, enabling you to use it in your future.


Things Changed

My first big step in changing was admitting to myself that one of my past friendships was toxic. and I had to let it go.

It was so hard, but she never liked anything I did, always judged, and when I needed her, she was never there in the end. I felt like I worked really hard to be her friend, and that's not right. A true friend will just be there.

I know you think it sounds bad, but true friendships are the people who are there no matter what happens in your life. whether you speak with them everyday of once a month.
Once I made this step I felt like a missive weight had been lifted, and I started to enjoy being me, doing things that I liked. It was a relief to not have to put in the effort.

Change is the most constant thing we have in our lives, yet it's one of the things we can fear the most, I can help you understand the changes and move forward with acceptance.

Things Really Changed

Oh my goodness did things really change, I got married, we moved house to a small village, I fell pregnant, and was away from my work, my friends, and my family. All within the space of 18 months.

I felt so lost, I had no Idea who I was or what I wanted to do, everything felt overwhelming.
When my first son arrived, I gave up my job, I wanted to be a stay at home mom (still do). But I knew deep down I needed more.
When my second son arrived during COVID, well that was a whole world of change. not all bad, but I still felt I needed more, I had started my own business a few years after my first was born, but it just wasn't working for me. it didn't fit with me, and having kids at the time. I went into discovery mode.

Discovery is exciting, it can be like igniting a spark of life again so you can shine bright.

I Knew I Needed To Find A New Me

I was happy, I had my boys, my dream home, amazing friends and family, but there was still something missing.

So I started to journal, not everyday, but most days, I would find thing I wanted to do, in my free time, I started using planners to make sure I got my free time, as well as time for me and my family/friends.

I started to discover who I was and what I loved doing after having kids. (it took time) but it was well worth it. That journey is never ending but with each new phase of my life I know that change is welcome, I can adapt and accept what happens.

There is no such thing as a new me... we just need to discover how to develop the change into a wonderful new path.

Now...

I want to share my how with you, I want to help you discover who you are and what you love after having kids.

We all know we can go months on end without even giving ourselves a second thought THIS HAS TO STOP!

If I can go from feeling lost to knowing my self-worth, enjoying self-care, family time and free time, with everything I have to do, so can you. I want to help you do it.

Positivity, love, doing what I love and what makes me happy creates a happy home life, and environment. The effects spread to those around you.

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The Basics Of Me

  • Mom of two boys 6 & 3
  • Wife to an awesome husband - also my IT man
  • Life Coach (Level 5 Diploma in Coaching with NLP)
  • Author of Romance novels
  • Reader, Book Lover and Kindle Lover
  • Owner of to many plants
  • House wife (I don't like this term, I'm not really sure what means, but I look after the house, and everything that’s involved in that, as well as everything else and extra,)

WHERE I’M COACHING FROM

Alveley, Shropshire, England

bekkivowles@gmail.com

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